When you ask an expectant woman if she wants a boy or a girl, she will usually say, “I don’t really care, as long as it’s a healthy baby.” Guess what? Generally that is not the whole truth. Many moms do care. Studies show that 8 out of 10 women are not happy with the sex of their baby.
Mary L., a mom of five boys was dying to have a girl. She tried everything she heard of, to chose the sex of her baby. Eating a diet rich in calcium, ovulation timing, and other tricks. When she heard she was pregnant with twin girls, she was ecstatic. After the doctor delivered one boy there was silence in the room, then the nurse said cheerfully, “And it’s another boy!” Looking back now Mary laughs, but when it happened she was devastated and confused.
Women should realize that they are not alone in this. Just because you have these feelings does not mean you are not going to love the child. Don’t bottle up these emotions because that can lead to postpartum depression. Talk to your doctor or midwife, someone who is objective, because they will help you see all the positives. In the end you are going to love your baby and realize you’re much happier than if it would have been the other way around.
Suggestion: Don’t find out the sex of the baby till it arrives. Chances are if your doctor told you it was a boy, and a girl pops out, you’re going to be way more disappointed then if you never knew.